Many people who were once caregivers say they did too much on their own. Some wished that they had asked for help sooner. Be honest about what you can do. Think about tasks you can give to others. And let go of tasks that aren't so important at this time.

Asking for help also helps your loved one.

Don't be afraid to ask for help. Remember, if you get help for yourself:

• You may stay healthier and have more energy.
• Your loved one may feel less guilty about your help.
• Other helpers may offer time and skills that you don't have.

How can others help you?

People may want to help you but don't know what you need. Here are some things you can ask them to do:

• Help with tasks such as:
  • Cooking
  • Cleaning
  • Shopping
  • Yard Work
  • Childcare
  • Eldercare
  
  
• Talk with you and share your feelings.
  
  
• Help with driving errands such as:
  • Doctor visits
  • Picking up your child
  
  
• Find information you need.
  
  
• Tell others how your loved one is doing.

Know that some people may say, "No."

Some people may not be able to help. There could be one or more reasons such as:

• They may be coping with their own problems.
• They may not have time right now.
• They may not know how to help.
• They may feel uneasy around people who are sick.

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